6 posts tagged “facebook”
So, I'm sitting on the computer minding my own business and going back and forth between Myspace and Facebook because I have nothing else better to do. While going through my daily stash of annoying Myspace messages and friend requests from some very ignorant and childish people, I get a request from a very cute 20 year old guy. I just accept anybody on Myspace because I really don't care. Unless they mess with me, I accept them and go on about my usual nothing else better to do stuff. After accepting this guy, I get a message from him saying that his name is Coleman (but that i could call him c.j. or c-wood) and that he is new to myspace and thanking me for the add (myspace lingo for adding people onto your friend's list or adding people onto yours... i don't think that that really needed to be explained *lol*). I tell him no problem and welcome him to myspace, while also giving him a fair warning about the crazies that occupy myspace. From there, we got to talking about about poetry, music, and stuff on my profile (btw... most guys that add me on myspace only add me because they want to see my pics. it totally caught me off guard that he actually read my profile and we were able to hold a decent conversation.). A few messages later, we exchange AIM screen names and continue talking to each other on AIM.
Now, I thought that he was someone worth talking to before the exchanging of screen names, but after that... I thought that he was more than that. I thought that he was the coolest person EVER! It was crazy! We had soooooo much in common and talking (or chatting in this case) to him was fun. The best thing is that while talking to him, he said this: "You're like the Carla to my Turk!". If you didn't know already, Scrubs is my favorite t.v. show. I never mentioned that to him before he said that, so I was totally stoked when he said that and I found out that he a Scrubs fan too. It was like... I don't know... It was crazy.
He mentioned that he would set his Myspace name as: She's the Carla to my Turk. I thought that it was cute and sweet of him, so I decided to change mine to: He's the Turk to my Carla. We exchanged numbers (i don't usually give out my number to random people. especially people on myspace.) and said our goodbyes afterwards. I went to bed with a smile on my face and high hopes. I woke up the next morning and couldn't stop talking about him to my mom. I was happy! My happiness faded later that day when I logged into Myspace.
I noticed that he wasn't in my friend's list anymore, so I added him again. When I did, I got a very disturbing message which made me wonder: "WTF happened to that great guy that I was talking to last night?". He apparently had a fiancee and she didn't want him talking to me anymore. I'm not one for drama, so I said that he should honor his fiancee's wishes and that was that. There's more to that, but the fact of the matter is I was hurt and HELLA confused. I was crushed! My mood suddenly got knocked down a couple of notches (my mom noticed the sudden mood change and related it to that, but i didn't want her to know... even though she already did... why does mom always have to be right and know it all? *lol*). Then, I started to regret having broken my own rule of not handing out my number to random people.
His fiancee somehow got my number and started texting me. I answered her texts politely and asked her nicely to lose my number. That didn't work. Neither did ignoring her. She kept confronting me and I was starting to get really pissed. I almost called her to yell at her in a very colorful way to leave me alone, but I held my composure and tried my best to not let her get to me. All I did was talk to C.J. in a friendly way. I didn't even know that he had a fiancee who claimed to be two months pregnant (i knew that he already had a daughter and i thought he had a son.)! So, I was trying to figure out why the heck I was getting confronted as if I had did something wrong. Why in the world wasn't she confronting C.J.?
In the middle of her texting me and me trying to figure out what was going on, I get a text from C.J. saying that his ex is out to ruin his life. Hmmm... that explained what was going on in some sense, but I was still left confused. Could I believe him? How could I trust that what he says is true?
He apologized a million and one times (that's a hyperbole *lol*) for getting me into this situation and not warning me about her in the beginning, and told me that he would understand it if I never spoke to him again after this. He was soooooooo sure that I would run away and head for the hills. He was kind of right *lol* I was about ready to run for the hills, but I didn't. I really liked him and I hate to think the worse of people, so I took a chance.
So, I called him and he explained everything (i found out that he only has a daughter and that the only reason that he was still talking to his ex is because he wanted to be a father figure to her son which i thought was his son. his ex seems to have a hard time with letting go and she has it set in her mind that if she can't have c.j.... nobody will. i wasn't the first girl to have a run in with her, but i was the first to stick around after it.) and then we talked for half of the day and I was back to being happy. He came over and we got together after knowing each other for two days.
Now, I know what you're probably thinking: "WTF were you thinking Ebonni? You've only known him for 2 days and now he's your boyfriend?!?!? He has a crazy ex that he neglected to tell you about at first!!! What is wrong with you?!?!?!?".
I was asking myself the same thing. I was asking myself a lot of questions and telling my self a lot of things such as:
"Are you sure you know what you're doing?"
"HE HAS A CRAZY EX!!!"
"HE HAS A DAUGHTER!!!!"
"Are you going nuts?!?!?"
"I thought you said that you weren't going to get yourself back into another relationship for a WHILE!!!"
"What happened to waiting for Nate to make up his mind?"
"What would Nate say or think?"
"Would he be mad?"
"Would he be hurt?"
"Yeah, you told him that you would move on... but I thought that you were going to wait around on him some more!"
"You met him on Myspace for crying out loud!!!"
"You met Brian on Myspace too, but he's a marine! There's a difference!!!"
"You meet a lot of guys online... Man you need a life Ebonni!!!" *lol*
Yeah, so I had a long talk with myself. But then I thought... He's the Turk to my Carla and I'm tired of holding onto false hopes and hollow dreams. I never take very many chances in life, and so I took one. I leaped without looking! I fell with no safety net to cushion the blow (i took that from natasha bedingfield's song i bruise easily).
I'm happy with my decision to act before I thought *lol* I did think it through though and my mom and others might think that I'm kinda crazy/stupid, but it's okay. We all have to learn our own lessons. I really like C.J. and I'm happy that I met him. If I wouldn't have met him, I'd probably still be waiting on Nate and being pissed because I decided to do so.
There are many disappointed guys that have told me how much they wish that I was their girlfriend, and how C.J. should be lucky, and how they will be waiting on the sideline if we should fail. I kind of felt bad for some of them, because I was actually interested in a couple, but C.J. somehow won my heart. Even with the crazy ex and the daughter (i'm still kinda adjusting to dating someone with kids. when i was little, my sisters and i use to say that we would never date anyone that smoked or had children... we've dated or are dating someone that has or does smoke and i'm dating somone with a child. it's funny how things change in life *lol* ) and some other things that I'm not going to mention (i think he had me hooked with the: she's the carla to my turk comment *lol*). So he has made some mistakes in life and he isn't perfect, but I still like him. Call it dumb, call it luck, call it love, or whatever you call it but it is what it is. Is being that we're together and I totally <3 this dude and have fallen head over heels which I wasn't really looking forward to but I like it *lol*
So, there it is folks. I have a new boyfriend. We've been together for about a week and it has been the best week EVER!!! C.J. is HELLA GREAT AND I LOVE 'EM ^_^!!!!
Hope all is well :)
(oh yeah.. c.j. has a vox too. if you want, you can stop by and welcome him! he hasn't posted anything yet, but he said that he will soon. my mom forced him to get a vox btw *lol*)
Today's post comes from a note on Facebook that I was tagged in by Nate. After reading it, a lot of things came to mind and so I decided to share it with my VOX fam. If it got me to thinking, I think that it will get a few more people to thinking too. Enjoy :)
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The following was written by Ben Stein and
recited by him on CBS Sunday Morning Commentary.
My confession:
I am a Jew, and every single one of my
ancestors was Jewish. And it does not bother me even a little
bit when people call those beautiful lit up, bejeweled trees
Christmas trees. I don't feel threatened. I don't feel
discriminated against. That's what they are: Christmas
trees.
It doesn't bother me a bit when people say,
'Merry Christmas' to me. I don't think they are slighting me
or getting ready to put me in a ghetto. In fact, I kind of
like it. It shows that we are all brothers and sisters
celebrating this happy time of year. It doesn't bother me at
all that there is a manger scene on display at a key
intersection near my beach house in Malibu . If people want a
creche, it's just as fine with me as is the Menorah a few
hundred yards away.
I don't like getting pushed around for
being a Jew, and I don't think Christians like getting pushed
around for being Christi ans. I think people who believe in God
are sick and tired of getting pushed around, period. I have no
idea where the concept came from that America is an explicitly
atheist country. I can't find it in the Constitution and I don't
like it being shoved down my throat.
Or maybe I can put it another way: where did
the idea come from that we should worship Nick and Jessica and
we aren't allowed to worship God as we understand Him? I
guess that's a sign that I'm getting old, too. But there are
a lot of us who are wondering where Nick and Jessica came from
and where the America we knew went to.
In light o f the many jokes we send to one
another for a laugh, this is a little different: This is not
intended to be a joke; it's not funny, it's intended to get
you thinking.
Billy Graham's daughter was interviewed on
the Early Show and Jane Clayson asked her ' How could God let
something like this happen?' (regarding Katrina) Anne Graham
gave an extremely profound and insightful response.
She said, ' I believe God is deeply saddened
by this, just as we are, but for years we've been telling God
to get out of our schools, to get out of our government and to
get out of our lives. And being the gentleman He is, I
believe He has calmly backed out. How can we expect God to
give us His blessing and His protection if we demand He leave
us alone?'
In light of recent events...terrorists
attack, school shootings, etc. I think it started when
Madeleine Murray O'Hare (she was murdered, her body found
recently) complained s he didn't want prayer in our schools,
and we said OK.
Then someone said you better not read the
Bible in school. The Bible says thou shalt not kill, thou
shalt not steal, and love your neighbor as yourself. And we
said OK.
Then Dr. Benjamin Spock said we shouldn't
spank our children when they misbehave bec ause their little
personalities would be warped and we might damage their
self-esteem (Dr. Spock's son committed suicide). We said an
expert should know what he's talking about. And we said OK.
Now we're asking ourselves why our children
have no conscience, why they don't know right from wrong, and
why it doesn't bother them to kill strangers, their
classmates, and themselves.
Probably, if we think about it long and hard
enough, we can figure it out. I think it has a great deal to
do with ' WE REAP WHAT WE SOW.'
Funny how simple it is for people to trash
God and then wonder why the world's going to hell. Funny how
we believe what the newspapers say, but question what the
Bible says. Funny how you can send 'jokes' through E-mail and
they spread like wildfire but when you start sending messages
regarding the Lord, people think twice about sharing. Funny
how lewd, crude, vulgar and obscene articles pass fr eely
through cyberspace, but public discussion of God is suppressed
in the school and workplace.
Are you laughing?
Funny how when you forward this message, you
will not send it to many on your address list because you're
not sure what they believe, or what they will think of you for
sending it.
Funny how we can be more worried about what
other people think of us than what God thinks of us.
Pass it on if you think it has merit. If not
then just discard it... no one will know you did. But, if you
discard this thought process, don 't sit back and complain
about what bad shape the world is in.
*sigh* I think my relationship is close to an end. I missed the Piston's open practice. I MISSED SCRUBS!!!!! This day is just GREAT!!! And I mean that with all the sarcasm that I can muster. This day is frickin' craptastic! The thing that really keeps getting to me, is the me missing scrubs part. I CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT IT! SCRUBS MAKES ME HAPPY ^_^! I NEED MY SCRUBS EVERY DAY! *lol* But seriously, the part about my relationship is what keeps getting to me.
I don't know what the "fluff" is going on. Apparently my relationship is complicated. Well, according to Nate. I found that out when I logged into Facebook, and read his profile, after seeing that I was no longer in a relationship with Nate Smith. First he switched his status to single. Then in an open relationship. and finally in a complicated relationship. To me, that sounds like there is something going on that I'm not exactly sure about. After seeing that, I didn't know how to feel about my relationship with Nate anymore.
Dang! Is it that he's tired of being with me? Is it that there is someone else, and the same thing that happened to Holly (his ex) is now going to happen to me? Is Holly the other person? Did he really want to be in a relationship with me for real? Does he really love me like he says he does, or was it that fake "love"? Is it that he doesn't have the same feeling for me that he did before? What is it? What the "flip saunders" happened?
The more I try to not let this whole thing get to me, the more I let it. I can't stop wondering: What did I do? What went wrong? Are we really close to the end? These same questions keep running through my mind. I'm really letting this get to me. I don't know how to feel, think, or what to do!
I guess you can say that I can't really be too upset at this, because I felt it happening. Things just weren't the same. He hardly called anymore, and we found less and less things to talk about on the phone. Things have felt different from since we were friends. Not different in a bad way to me, but I guess it felt different in a bad way to him. Man! I'm soooooooo mixed up right now!
Whatever is going on, I hope that we are able to work out whatever and find some kind of happy median in our relationship. Like I've mentioned before, I really, really, really, really like Nate. He makes me happy.He makes me laugh all the time. He's my buddy ^_^! And I don't want to lose my buudy.
Trying to explain how Nate makes me feel is like me trying to figure out how to explain the sport of curling. It's confusing and really doesn't make that much sense to me either *lol* It's this whole crazy, crazy, thing (that was for you mom)! I don't know why I feel this way about Nate. It's scary. I've only known him for about... 5 months... I think. and we've been together for almost 2 months. How the "higgly puff" did I fall for him sooooooooooo fast? It's scary, but then again it's not. I feel comfortable with Nate. Falling so fast for him wasn't as scary as it was when I was with Chico/Mikey.
Like I said. I'm willing to work things out, but if he wants to go... I can't do anything but let him go. I can't continue to hold on to something that doesn't want to be kept. As in the words of G.K. Chesterton: "The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost." No one wants to lose someone that they love, but we all realize that we might sooner or later. If I realize this, why does it still hurt?
Well, I guess I'll get to see Tayshaun Prince and the rest of the Pistons some other time. I'm still disappointed because I have been looking forward to open practice since last year, when I first found out about it. I really wanted to go. But, I'll get over it in about a couple of years or so *lol* As for me getting over missing scrubs... I wont ever get over that. You guys just don't understand. Scrubs is my life! *lmao*
Well, I'm about to go chill out and write and listen to some music. I have a lot on my mind. I release some of my worries by playing the video game, but Sonic Adventure 2 Battle can only take away so much of my stress. That games can get pretty boring, and there aren't any other games to play (i hope santa brings me an x box 360 this year, and at least 2 games like GH or Halo *lol*).
Hope all is well :)
Have you ever met someone that you just... idk how to explain... click with? I have! While checking my facebook one day, I got a new friend request. I'm kinda touchy when it comes to accepting and making new friends on facebook and myspace, so I was going to reject it, but I am really glad that I accepted this request. At first glance, I thought that Nate (his name btw) would be like any other boy that sends me a request on facebook or myspace. Rude, ignorant, and just lookind for some tail (if you know what i mean *lol*). Bu t after talking to him after a while, I saw that I was totally wrong about him (never judge a book by it's cover *lol* ). He's a complete gentleman, he's funny, weird (in a good way *lol*), and he's... different! I don't know how we become best buds, but it was fast and kinda scary. But it's also wonderful all at the same time! We just clicked and became friends! We have sooooooooo much in common, and we're both geeks (we like books, video games (especially guitar hero), anime, manga, comics, music, and writing) *lol*. *sigh* He's the bestest buddy EVER (he even wrote me a poem (it's a funny poem*lol*)! and i wrote one for him too!)! And... I think I have a lil bitty crush *blush* ! But he has a girlfriend unfortunately :( . On the flip side, it's better to have him as a friend, than nothing at all. I'm gonna miss him when I move :(, but you gotta do what you gotta do.
I am soooo ready to go to school! I know that sounds weird coming from me, but I got something that gave me a lil inspiration. I got an "acceptance" letter from U of M!!! Based off of my ACT scores, I am a top scholar student! I didn't prepare for the test or finish it, and I got a 19! All I have to do is b ring up my g.p.a. I'm ready to get this high school thing done an over with!
Each day is another closer to me moving. At first, I was a little scared to be leaving my home town and all that is familiar to me, but then I realized that this is a chance for something new. This is a chance to explore all the open options that are out there. Being scared will get you no where in life. It's time to be a big girl and move on :)
I saw my father for the first time in a long time yesterday. It was a kind of painful visit, because he was drunk. He's no t supposed to be drinking, because of his diabetes, so that scared me. He nearly died one time! He quit for a while, but then he started up again, due to some things that he's going through right now. I'm worried about hi m, and I hope that things will get better for him soon.
Hope all is well :)
*note: sorry for the unusual spaces. the space bar is stuck *lol* i'll fix all mistakes soon!
What websites do you visit every day?
Submitted by Chez Michelle.
In exactly this order, I visit these site everyday:
1. Facebook
2. VOX
3. Myspace
4. Imeem
5. Yahoo
6. Gmail
7. Xanga
It's a very beautiful day here in the great city of Detroit :) With sunny skies and tempratures in the 70s, who could resist being happy on this day? Nobody! *lol* Yes, we have been blessed with two beautiful days in a row! And you had better believe that everybody is out and about enjoying themselves. As you can probably tell... I am in a very good mood :) I am smiling and glowing. With the beautiful day, a relaxing time at the park (yeah... i still hang at the park... and i still fight for the swings *lol*) and the NBA playoffs, nothing can bring me down. Not even one single thought about Brian/ Chico/ Mikey... whatever you wanna call him (well... i kinda felt down about that earlier, but i shook it off and moved on. YAY!!! for me *lol*) I am totally geeked and ready for game one of the Pistons-Magic series tonight. I get excited about Piston's games like I'm on the team or at one of the games (that i will be going to one of these days). Come on seven o' clock!
Well, I don't have much to write about really. I've decided to re-post a post from facebook. It's really funny (well, i think it is *lol*) and random. I hope ya'll like it.
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Yup! This is a note, post, whatever you wanna call it, about the wonderfully silly, crazy, and (whatever else you would like to insert here) EBONNI VICTORIA! So sit back and, hopefully, enjoy :)
Ten crazy and random things about moi!:
1. I sing and dance around to the RENT soundtrack like I'm actually in the musical
2. I sometimes do my own theme music (i got that from banana boy *lol*)
3. I know almost every single word to every single episode of Spongbob Squarepants and Foster's Home for Imaginary Friends
4. I still color when I'm bored (don't act like you don't *lol*)
5. I love all of Dr. Suess's books (he's a literary genius)
6. I liked Blues Clues better when Steve was on there
7. I still fight for the swings at the park (yeah... it's that serious)
8. I had a crush on Speed Racer when I was little (he was a cutie *lol*)
9. I'm still looking for the way to Sesame Street (i've been trying to get there since I was five... seriously)
10. I'm just simply EBONNI! Nothing more! Nothing less! (she's cool isn't she *lol*)
Five things I use to want to, or still want to, be when growing up:
1. A Nascar race car driver
2. An elementary school teacher or a college professor
3. The first girl in the NBA
4. The first girl in the NFL
5. A famous actress and singer
6. A famous astronomer
Eleven things that I can't live without:
1. My family (that includes my crazy cats) and friends :)
2. DEE-TROIT BASKETBALL (sports in general)!!!
3. Books (i love books more than some people)!
4. TWIX AND CHOCOLATE ( i would seriously die)!!!
5. CHEESECAKE and TIRAMISU (i would die too)!!!
6. Orlando Bloom (love me some orlando!)
7. Tayshaun Prince (love me some tay!)
8. My journal and poetry book (even though i don't write in them often)
9. MUSIC (i would literally die... seriously!)!!!
10. My mp3 player
11. Ben and Jerry's Ice Cream
Twelve of my favorite movies:
1. The Princess Bride
2. Love Jones (i only watch it for larenz tate... j/k I LOVE THAT MOVIE !)
3. The Notebook (It wasn't over *tear in eye*)
4. Pirates of the Caribbean: Curse of the Black Pearl
5. Pirates of the Caribbean: Deadman's Chest
6. RENT
7. Pretty in Pink
8. The Breakfast Club
9. Sixteen Candles
10. A Walk to Remember
11. Happy Feet
12. Finding Nemo
Five random, and not so random, things that I say out of nowhere:
1. "I think I have to use the bathroom." (don't ask *lol*)
2. "Chillax!"
3. "Be like Nike and JUST DO IT!"
4. "SCRUBS IS ON!!!" (yes! i run around the house screaming that *lol*)
5. "DEE-TROIT BASKETBALL!!!" (i run around and scream that too)
There! Hope you enjoyed and at least laughed a lil bit. And yes, I was bored *lol*
